Carol was visiting recently (always a treat) and while she was here my dad who died two years ago decided to visit also. This has happened before when I have visited her house. I think my dad is stuck between worlds and not able to move on. When I’m around Carol he knows that he can reach me through her, so he comes around. What happened was that I was lying in bed, not asleep, or I had just woken up from sleep (don’t remember) and I felt that someone was walking up to the side of the bed and was reaching out to touch me on the shoulder. I got kind of scared for a second, then I realized it was my dad and I relaxed. I said out loud “Just go away Dad”. That sounds kind of harsh doesn’t it? He’s been hanging around since he died and I don’t always have the patience I should have, especially in the middle of the night.
I asked Carol the next morning if she has felt my dad around since she’s been visiting and she said he’s been bugging her too. It’s kind of tough because he won’t believe (and never did) that there is anything after you die, he didn’t believe in God, and now he’s trying to stay latched onto this world. Stubborn. I think maybe he’s waiting for my mom to join him, but she’s nowhere near ready to go. So I imagine I will continue to feel him around from time to time. I’ve tried to get him to move on but he doesn’t believe in it, so he won’t go.
The second night Carol was here, I was awake again in the middle of the night (thank you insomnia, ugh) and I heard footsteps in the hallway, and I heard the door to our laundry room open (it’s kind of noisy). I didn’t hear the door close, though. When we all got up in the morning I asked Carol and Stevo if they had been walking around in the middle of the night and they both said no. I was the first one up and the laundry room door was still closed. Carol said my dad did come into her room that night, which can only be reached from the hallway by opening the laundry room door.
I’ve had stuff like this happen a lot at Carol’s house and just a few times here at our house. It’s not really scary, just more surprising. It’s happened enough times that I don’t question anymore whether it’s real, it’s just something that happens. I was telling this to another friend today and she pointed out how on TV or in the movies they make it seem so creepy and scary. But it’s not really that way. I suppose it could be if a really evil entity is trying to scare you, but I think you have to learn to not immediately go into fear, or if you do go into fear, to get out of it quickly.
Carol had told us about a TV show from the ’90s called “The Others” and I was able to find the full episodes on Youtube. It’s an interesting show and the characters drop a lot of gems in the dialogue, one of which was that demons can only get to you if you go into fear. The show was only on for 13 episodes and then got cancelled, but the shows that did air were interesting and worth watching. They do go in for the creep factor a bit, but the show is also almost a primer for the new psychic.
Anyway I sometimes tease Carol about being the Ghost Whisperer. Wouldn’t that be a great name for a TV show?